A Bug's Life

John's would be apt, as writing this was a major Procrastination...

I get fewer clashes when I act in pure recipient mode - I see the hugger approach and base my reaction on what would fit with them. But I get fewer hugs that way than when I take a more active part in initiating the hug.

I'm still fairly poor at initiating hugs, but I am a lot better at not running away and hiding when someone comes towards me with arms!

(Maybe if I get enough practice at this it will begin to feel as "natural" and "instinctive" as society leads us to expect so if we have trouble we think we're crap at being human. But I find I usually need to get through a perhaps over-analytic stage before I internalise the understanding (she says, over-analytically))